I don't want this to hold me back so I decided to see a counselor. I never would've thought that I would need to see a counselor. I just always thought counseling was for people who had serious problems in their lives. I don't know where that impression came from. Probably TV. I have been to three counseling sessions so far. At each session, I find out a little more about myself. It's amazing how well we think we know ourselves until someone else reveals a little bit more. I realized that I don't have it all together like I thought. I graduate in May and will be searching for jobs and internship opportunities. If I can't network or get through the interview process, how can I expect to have a career. I do plan on having a successful career, and I don't want anything to hinder that. Counseling is helping me overcome this barrier in my journey.
Here are some of the tips I have been given
- Realize that everyone is not looking at you. In all actually, people are really looking and thinking about themselves and what they have to do.
- When in unfamiliar situations, take something with you that you are familiar with. It can be a ring or something as simple as a pen. It can be whatever you like.
- Picture yourself in a calm, relaxed setting and visualize yourself as you would like to be.
- Know your strengths. Use your strengths to build up your confidence. I know that I may not be the most social in the room, but I do know that I am intelligent, dependable, a great listener, etc.
- Practice social skills. The more you do it the better you become. If you don't know what to say, practice ahead of time. I never know what to say so practicing will definitely help.
- Don't compare yourself to someone not like you. Sometimes I want to be that person who is a natural born socializer, but that's not who I am. Let that vision go. Create visions from the person you really are and let that flow naturally.
I know that I will not become this social butterfly because that's just not who I am. I will be able to interact and communicate better in social situations.
Feel free to leave comments below on how you deal with shyness or introversion.